A Love Story Written in Heaven

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11)

“So…how old are you? Oh…ok”; 

“That person just broke the age barrier. Now she’s old” (said of a 30 year old); 

“I’m getting old” (said a 29 year old); 

“And you’re not married yet?!”; 

“Those poor single and old people” (said of those over 25)

I went to a conference two months ago, which discussed the topic: “Being a Godly Man and Woman”. The turnout of people was amazing and the discussions were very good. The topics of being single, yet satisfied, and what it means to be godly, as a single or a married person, were discussed. 

Some of the things that came up for discussion among the young people were sobering; others disturbing. Many expressed despair from being pressured by family, friends, work and generally their surroundings, about getting married. They were in their mid- to late- 20’s, some already in their 30’s, and the pressure for some became unbearable and they resorted to entering into relationships with people from the world who showed interest in them. Some said that if they wouldn’t be married by a certain age (like 30), they would die (meaning, they could not look beyond that age for a meaning in their life and could not see or plan for their future beyond that). 

We should rejoice at every age, not frown upon it. Life itself is a gift from God and every age is one that can be used by God for His glory, if we allow Him do so.

The message in the conference was clear: whether you are single or married, you are special in God’s eyes and He has a unique plan designed for you from before the foundation of the world. Marriage does not make you more or less of a complete person in Messiah Yeshua. 

The expressions at the top of this post have been made by many and heard by many more. I think it’s time we change our lingo. Enough treating unmarried young people (mainly women), as poor, old and miserable creatures for being older than a certain age and single. To those who are unmarried young adults – stop treating yourselves and others like that. It does not build up our brothers and sisters in the Lord, but has a discouraging effectDid you ever think that God might have a different plan for those people than what you may think“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Ephesians 4:29). 

I know people who were married at 19, others who were married at 30 and still others who married close to 40 and even 50. Each one is happy and would not trade a moment in their lives for what God gave them, when He did. 

Two days ago, I turned 28. I have single friends for whom I pray for that God would bring a spouse. And when I see a friend getting married, I rejoice for answered prayer. I didn’t expect to still be single, but I know God has a plan and a purpose for this time. I don’t know what it is, but I do trust Him for it. 

God gave me a loving family for which I am eternally grateful, wonderful friends who, with just a small note or word, can make my day. God wrote my love story and it is still being written. He gave me my prince charming, my Lord Yeshua, who’s love I wouldn’t trade for the world. If He chooses to bring me a husband, I know it will be in His time and place. He is the centre of my life and I am able to rest in His love. 

If you are single and reading this, be encouraged. God is writing your love story, and if you trust Him to complete it the way that He wants, it will have a truly happy ending.

© Hannah Kramer

One step at time

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Phillipians 4:13)

This past week I began my my studies for a Master’s Degree. Exciting! For the last few weeks, I’ve been thinking how we are all in a race, looking towards a goal. The goal may be different for each one of us. Some of my friends began their studies this year and some are continuing them. They feel the pressure of all the school work and of getting it all done on time and in the best way possible. Some dear people I know have been quite ill and need prayer. They are on the road to recovery now and for them, the goal is getting well and back to themselves – a task which might be just as difficult as physically climbing a mountain. Others are preparing for the army, passing a driver’s test or deciding what to do, now that they have finished a certain phase in life. Whatever the goal may be, for some it is like climbing a mountain – they may not see the top, but rather see all the twists and turns leading to it, wondering how and when they will get there, if at all. A mountain climb can be difficult and exhausting, especially when you are not used to it. However, when you have a strong and seasoned guide taking you up, it becomes SO much easier, because he steers you away from slippery slopes and shows you where to place your foot and hold on with your hand, so you make it safely to the top. All these things might seem overwhelming and frightening, especially when we don’t know what exactly the future holds. However, we need to remember that the Lord Yeshua holds our future in His hands, as Jeremiah 29:11 says: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. We can draw encouragement and just put our hands in His, and let Him lead us just by remembering that He has our best in His plans for us.

As I thought of all this, I remembered this song, which is a favourite of mine. You may remember that I shared another song from Psalty previously in Where has the love gone. I grew up on Psalty songs (Kids Praise! album), and I still love those songs :). This is one of those great songs of encouragement and it has accomplished its purpose many times:

Happy climbing. Some of us will definitely meet along the way. But, we will all definitely meet at the top! (Song lyrics are at the bottom)

© Hannah Kramer

One step at a time

When something seems
Too hard to handle,
Too big to conquer,
Too far away to touch.

When all your dreams
Begin to shatter,
And deep inside you
You’re hurting’, oh, so much.

That’s when it’s time to say

Refrain:

I’m climbing my mountain, step by step,
I’m climbing my mountain, day by day,
I’m climbing my mountain, all the way,
I’m climbing my mountain.
I’m gonna make it!

Chorus:

One step at a time.
One step at a time.
One step at a time.
With Jesus by my side.

One step at a time.
One step at a time.
I’m climbing my mountain,
One step at a time.

Even though you might grow weary,
Don’t be discouraged.
In your weakness God is strong.
Remember this, He’ll never leave you,
He won’t forsake you,
He’s your strength and He’s your song.

So sing and start to say…